tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38893560.post7673000721621740032..comments2023-10-08T12:11:52.993+13:00Comments on New Zealand Conservative: Whatever you do, don't blame the woman!Lucia Mariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10485990994973953860noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38893560.post-45384280914120508812008-12-27T11:46:00.000+13:002008-12-27T11:46:00.000+13:00I think the person that said "When will the Maxim ...I think the person that said <EM>"When will the Maxim Institute stop blaming women for men's violence?"</EM> is the one reading too much into it. That is really the foundation of the argument, and seems to stem from a fear of women being judged for making a string of bad choices in inviting abusive men into a home.<BR/><BR/>And I think Lucyna's final point is the essence of the counter argument she makes. Instead of being upset over (supposedly) the Maxim institute blaming women, or (supposedly) violent men not getting enough blame, the point surely is the outcome to the children. <BR/><BR/>I don't know how many women have a string of successive boyfriends (we may be talking small numbers here), and end up with them all being abusive, but for those that do, they might want to consider making a man earn their trust and respect by courting her over a longer period - not by shacking up after a great party.<BR/><BR/>One recent example comes to mind - the then 30 year old mother of Nia Glassie who took on a 15 year old lover after throwing her partner out. Didn't work out well for Nia irrespective of who shoulders most of the blame.ZenTigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07888629207437612884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38893560.post-83780770375671545372008-12-26T02:38:00.000+13:002008-12-26T02:38:00.000+13:00Easy on Lucyna. I think you are reading too much i...Easy on Lucyna. I think you are reading too much into it. I think we can assume the statement is correct, but clearly there is no blame to one party only. There are all sorts of contributing factors involved, every combination different in every case. No one is saying that the person performing the abuse is free of any blame whatsoever.Seánhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00105226003936491432noreply@blogger.com