This is just so confusing - well not confusing, it's wrong ! Multiple trips to fertility doctors, three miscarriages and $60-$70,000 out of pocket, Tanya was left with little choice: if she was going to become a mother, she would need a free sperm donor. But for the 39-year-old, the formal process of searching for a suitable candidate on the Free Sperm Donor Register turned into something far from expected - a blossoming new romance. And, despite the relationship, Tanya is determined to be the only legal parent if she does eventually have a baby . There was one important 21 st century ritual to be undergone before they could proceed though. They exchanged STD results before consummating the relationship. Sounds so romantic .