Well, the debate on the redefinition of marriage is over, and gay people, under the eyes of the state are able to use the word marriage alongside hetero-sexual couples. At an individual level, I can understand the joy and comfort this brings to many sincere people on the other side of the debate, and especially to gay people who have entered into a lifelong commitment with one person in the full sense of "for better or worse, until death do us part". I am happy for you.I am also grateful, that in spite of many bad things about the quality of the debate, we at least had one. There is much to criticize (and that might be explored in future posts), but for this post, I think it is also worth acknowledging that there was at least a little bit of effort to discuss this issue.
To me, the debate, in the simplest form, was a debate where one point of view focused on defining marriage as something based on mutual love and commitment between any two people OR that the definition of marriage was defined and necessarily restricted to something very profound about the complementarity of sexes.
Those two positions have very little overlap, and that was why the debate was so polarizing.
Very old fashioned thinking perhaps, but as old fashioned as not wanting to redefine the word "boy" to also mean "girl". It just seems a pointless thing to do, no matter how much comfort it might bring to all that believe to label boys or girls by their sex is to create boundaries for discrimination. Furthermore, holding to that point of view was never meant to attack either boys or girls simply for holding that those particular words mean something specific, and should not (could not?) be changed simply by passing a law. New words will probably arise if such a thing ever comes to pass, and I suspect this may now happen with the word 'marriage'. Time will tell.
Anyway, that whole debate can wait for another day. Today, I am simply saying that I understand your point of view, and what you argued for and why, and I am happy for you.